Monday, January 29, 2007

Equation of Desires and Happiness

Desires, desires, desires------and desires. We are all obsessed with them. If someone asks you a question that how a single human can have so many desires? Then it will be very difficult for you to answer this question because no body is able to answer this question so far. When one of our desires gets fulfilled then thousand more desires comes up instantly.

Desires are not bound to anybody. A poor can have them and simultaneously a rich can also have them. Desires are some thing, which everybody has in abundance. Every one has its own set of desires. Someone desires for money and other for a beautiful wife. Desires are endless. They can be from a small trivia to highly expensive thing.

Now question which comes is that is it good to have a desire or not? Definitely desires are good and they motive us to do many things in life. However the important thing is that they are must in controlled number and in one’s achievable limit. Desires provide us the energy to fulfill our dreams. It gives our goals the motive and direction. One can only fulfill his dreams, if he has desire for it.

Desire is first basic thing to achieve something. All the world leaders who have achieved excellence in their lives have strong desire for achievement. Desire work as the basic ingredient in fulfilling our dreams. Therefore desires are necessary, as they give direction to our life. However on the contrary, we are usually over burdened by our desires.

We have desires much more than what we can achieve? Most of our desires originate due to the others achievements or their lifestyle. We want to become or look like them. Second the world is shrinking, making more things in our reach. This whole process is putting more pressure on our decision power. TV and Media are also increasing our desires on daily basis by providing information about newer things. Ours friends and relative’s achievement also generates more desires in us. All these things make us under more pressure of desires.

If we do not control our desires at right time then they can even swallow us. Many people do lot of mistakes due to these desires, like take huge loans which are difficult to repay for them. We spend unwisely on irrelevant things. We do not save for our future. These small things if not taken care of can take away our happiness and make us miserable. However few people think about this. On the other hand most of us go on increasing desires for whole life.

A child is born no desires, but as, he progress in life, soon he starts accommodated lot of desires. There is nothing bad in increasing desires, but the main problem come when they remain unfulfilled. More desires we have, more the chances of unfulfilled desires. And more the unfulfilled desires, more sad we are. Therefore we born as a happy child and die as sad human being. We have to learn this simple principle in life that we can not achieve everything in life.

We can only plan our life and try to achieve things wisely. Consider this formula of Happiness-Happiness= Desires fulfilled/desires new generated+ old desires. Happier we will be when the denominator is more and base is less. We only consider about increasing the numerator and not decreasing the denominator. It is not possible in this world to achieve everything; however it is possible to limit our desires. We can become happy by using the second way of decreasing base. Therefore by making our desires in control we can become happy.

Unknown Fears

There nearly 90% of people in world who are affected by unknown fears. These fears are wiping out them slowly and slowly. With the growth of technological advancements and hectic schedules, these fears are becoming more and more prominent. The main fear among them is fear of future. Future is not seen by anybody and nobody knows what's there in future is for him.

Still most of us remain anxious about our future. The main reason for the rise of future worries as major fear is that we are living in extremely erratic world. Nothing here is stable. Everybody is running for something. Competition is very stiff and therefore people at the lower level obtain no right to make their decisions. They are just forced to behave, live and work according to the orders of the others.

As the things are not in their control, therefore frequently situations become out of their control. They find themselves as hostage in the hands of others. Any losses out of these conditions where they have no authority make them apprehensive about their future. Therefore they got trapped in the middle of situation from where they can not think about the other alternative. This makes them frustrated and nervous about the future.

In this situation they are not able to do anything, but only can fear about the future and slowly die. Second fear is of the change. As we become old with the job, then the fear of new things starts affecting us. The fear of competition from new generation and non proficiency in the new technology make us suspicious of ourselves. We start fearing that the new generation with take over us or we will be unable to cope up with the new technology.

Our superiors exploit this situation to compare us with the new ones. More problems come when these new generation got success more than us. Here starts the fear of inferiority. In our subconscious mind we start believing that we are inferior. Technology divide and variable education streams making it more prominent. Third is the promotion of juniors and or same ranks to higher positions. Many times due to the different circumstances many people go higher than the other of same or more potential.

These circumstances are not in the control of anybody. But these types of developments make us fearful about our position to them. Many times these fears also come true, when people are let down by superiors cum juniors earlier. These situations become worst, when the humiliation is in front of others. These situations may not happen to most of us, but we become fearful by seeing the others fate. Fourth is the inability to cope up with the prevailing situations. Many times in life, situations become more difficult than our expectation.

Here we find ourselves unable to cope up with them. Like the jobs assigned to us or the expectations from us are more than our current potential. Under the pressure or prestige, we cannot admit it publicly. Therefore from the day one we start fearing about the outcome. These are some kinds of fears which are killing the peoples worldwide slowly. We are required to know of our fear well and rectify them, before they can damage us by any mean. Best way is to fight them and come as champion out of them, if we understand our fears and doesn't do anything to control them then we are just knowingly killing ourselves.

Sunday, January 28, 2007

My First love My Teacher

I still remember those days when I was in six standards. That was very tender age in all ways and as a child; I was not much grown emotionally at that stage. I was not very clear about love and sex. I had never experienced love for any girl before. All the girls in my class were same for me as boys. There was no restriction on sitting with them. We play with them and sometimes even touches them also. However never any feeling of love or sex came in my mind.

Everything was going smoothly, one day a beautiful English teacher came to our class. She was our new English teacher. This was her first assignment. She had recently passed her masters in English. She was approximately 22-23 years old. Her height was average. She was a clear example of how a beautiful and adult woman should look like. Her every body part was in a mature state of adulthood. This was my first experience of seeing a so beautiful woman. I could clearly see a huge difference between her and the girls of my class.

She started taking our class. I first time realized in my life some kind of attraction for a girl. A strange feeling started taking over me. Whenever I saw her then I wanted to see her even more. Dreams of her started coming into my mind. I started attending her class and doing work given by her more seriously. I wanted to come in her favorites list. I felt bad when some male teacher talks to her. Day by day my madness for her started growing. I wanted to remain more and more with her.

I started dreaming of marrying her. These were my true feeling first time for some one and some kind of sexual attraction was also present in it. I had the first time realized the difference between a man and woman. I wanted to touch her and sleep with her. I wanted that she should take over all of my responsibilities. She should make food for me, wash my clothes and remain with me forever. These are unknown feelings which gripped me at that time. I never encountered such feelings before.

One day came when she gave us a test and told us that she would give a surprise gift to the topper. I didn't wanted to lose this opportunity; so, I worked very hard for the test and stood first in it. While announcing the numbers in test, she came near me and kissed on my face. For some minutes I was in sky. For me her kiss was like winning a big battle. With this my feeling for her became even stronger. Feeling of her lips touching my face were making me mad. I started dreaming to kiss her also.

One month before our exams news came that my favorite teacher is going to be married this week and she would now never attend school again. I felt like that some one had taken ground away from my feet. My dreams looked shattered in few seconds. I felt very bad about the guy who was going to marry my teacher. First time a desire to grow early and propose her arose in me. However with the passes of days everything starts coming to normal. Again I became a normal child. But definitely she was able to teach me the difference between a woman and girl.

How difficult it to be like a woman?

We say that women are one of the greatest creatures of the mankind. There are lot of songs, stories, literatures and poems, which are written in admiration of them. However in reality when we see the actual condition of many women around us then all these things just look as false quotes. A woman plays a very important role in the expansion of mankind; it is difficult for the any human to come in to this world without the support of her.

She feeds us in her womb for nine months and suffers all the pains without showing any sign of regret. She plays lot of other important roles in our lives without which it is not possible for us to live a happy life. However, still our behaviors toward women require a substantial change. A woman starts facing discrimination in life from her birth and this whole story continues till her death. Women even after so many years of development of mankind are not able to find any respectable place for themselves.

In India everyday, we can find many cases in which women are burned alive. Hundred of women are molested or raped every day around India. The difficulty with the women is that there is no place in world which is completely safe for them. Every man only believes them as the object of sexual satisfaction and nothing more. Many people around us only move as hunters with women as their pray. This is a question of vast shame for country like India where we give lot of respect to our mother and claim our country as our Mother.

We even worship women in the figure of many Goddesses; still we do not provide the much needed respect to the small innocent and insecure goddesses present among us. It is very heartening to give pain to one of the best creature of the god. Women are the only creature in this universe which is burned before their death. Women suffering are endless; it is only due to their great emotional power we are not able to see them.

Most of the time she remains in the sufferings but still she does not show her pain to others. It is a tough task to consider world without them, however the decreasing number of girl child shows some concerns. We need to come out of the double standards against the women and provide them with a good world to live.

Monday, January 22, 2007

Indian Journalism

Journalism has come a long age in India. It has seen long changes in India culture and society. Today with the entry of many new news channels and print media, its concept are changing very fast. Toady this is a hot carrier option for the many youth of India. Newer colleges are coming up every year to offer the journalism courses. Twenty years back there were very few selected individuals, who have the courage to enter into journalism.

Rewards in term of money were not very high, but the risks associated were present in abundance. Corruption was at its peak. Media was mostly influenced by the political parties. More over the number of print media was very less and TV was in its initial stages. Therefore choosing a carrier in journalism at that time requires lot of guts. That’s why we are seeing these journalists today as the Icons in their field.

Their name is like a brand image for many news channels and print media. Many news channels in India are just running due to their brand names. However, in recent years there are significant changes which are seen in every thing related to journalism. This has happened mainly due to two reasons, first due to the increasing influence of IT and seconds due to the emergence of cable TV in India. IT has played a big role in it.

Indian government initiatives have made it possible that internet must reaches to every town and village. Further competition in market forced reduction in the prices drastically.Now it is easy for people of India to interact with other people of the world and share their views. News has started circulating very fast. More and more information have now become accessible to common man. In India, before the emergence of cable TV, there were only one or two channels.

However the cable TV concept has revolutionized the whole Indian TV industry. New private TV channel have started emerging. With boundaries broken by the digital media, the need for news at fast speed has given birth to news channels. Also the success of some channels is making others to come in it. These news channels are providing the big opportunity to many Indian journalists and are helping in making the Indian journalism stronger.

Print media has also seen a substantial growth in last few years. With the increasing education slandered, more demand for quality work has emerged. Indian journalists are getting more opportunity due to this information demand. Indian journalists who are proficient in English are getting lot of readers in the Western countries. Internet is making new world jobs accessible to Indian journalists. With this we are going to witness a new era in Indian journalism.

Saturday, January 20, 2007

Three ways to make a women happy

Woman is a wonderful creature of God. She is made by the God to spread happiness to mankind and that what she is doing in this world? Women have always remained ahead in fulfilling the desires of others. Every woman is very innocent and strives only for small praises. All the Women like every human being love praise. This is the time tested thing with women. Many people have used it and got success in winning the hearts of the women. We can also use this age old technique to make woman of our life happy. However we are required follow some caution in our behaviors. Women are very strong in understanding and analyzing behaviors. This is like a God gift to them.

They can very easily understand the motives behind your praise. If they found your praise superficial or lacking feeling, then they are not likely to respond to your praise. We are required to judge our praise well and avoiding repeated praises. We should not use complex praising sentences, which are difficult to understand. A simple and sincere praise is the best. Praise should be followed with constant efforts and good behavior.
Second thing which women like most is your concern for them. They feel happy if you show concern towards them. Best way is to put your feet in to her shoe. We have to come to their level and share their feeling. They usually like to remain in their shells. They have their fear factors. Before showing our concerns, we should be aware about them. We should not try to immediately break them in one go. However by respecting their personal space, we must show our concern. Just do this and see the result.
Even by simply showing concern for health can do wonders or concern for other things related to her. She will like it, feel as a special care is given to her.

One more interesting point about women is that they like to be gets appreciated in front of others. They feel very happy with this behavior. They like if someone appreciate their work or food. If you want to win her heart, then must praise her in front of others and see the result. Her feeling towards you will change dramatically. Other approach is to praise her in front of her friend or known ones, so that we can tell her about your praise and finally making a place for you in her heart.

Thursday, January 18, 2007

Role of emotions in life

Emotions play a major role in our life because we are governed by them in parts of our life. Many people even after achieving success or attaining an old age remain in the grip of emotions. This is not the fault of anyone because we all are living in a close system of society where our previous behaviors and experiences determine our next actions. Some of the emotions like fear, sex, anger, love and grief etc are so strong that they compel us to do lot of things which we will never do if we can think on them properly. For example many people kill others due to angry or fear and we accept the crimes of the others.

Strong emotions are good but it is bad to be in control of them. Mostly we never realize when we come in the control of these emotions. In the situations of strong emotions lot of hormones are secreted by our body which makes it impossible for our brain to take any decisions. In this situation our most of the decisions are biased and are based on previous experiences or inherent behaviors. The problem is that when we go in the control of emotion then we are not only dangerous for our self but we become equally dangerous for others. We never realize how our behavior hurts others mentally and physically. In psychological and intellectual terms this state can be referred as non control on emotions or weakness of brain in controlling emotions.

For coming out of these situations we need control on our emotions and a strong brain which can easily face any emotional disturbances. For this we need to understand our emotions and their roles in our life. We need to realize that up to which extent we are in control of our emotions. Having knowledge about some thing is a one thing but to really correct them is a big fight. This is true in many episodes where people commit suicides due to not having control over their emotions. In these situations emotions have eaten the person and most of these people never realize that they are the victims of their emotions. Second thing is to make our brain and thinking power strong enough so that no emotion can take control of us. This thing can we achieved with positive outlook and regular small exercises like realizing emotions but not allowing them to disturb us.

Learn to control frustrations

How right was Saddam Hussein’s execution?

I am not trying to create a controversy but I am only want to create a debate on the whole issue of execution of Saddam Hussein. I want to ask that was it the right way adopted for the execution of Saddam Hussein.

We may agree that he had committed great crimes against the civilization. However I have few more points to raise that Why Amnesty has to condemn this hanging and whole procedure of trail adopted against Saddam Hussein, because there are lot of questions which remained unheard and a lot of hurry is shown by the US-aided government to hang the Saddam Hussein.

At present Saddam Hussein was in the state of helpless and therefore it was not necessary to hang him and life imprisonment was enough to realize him of his crimes. Saddam Hussein hanging has created a big set back to the reconciliation drive in the Iraq. Today with this execution the divide between Shia and Sunni communities of Iraq has become wider and may effects any efforts of Iraq’s reconstruction.

Moreover this hanging has created anger in the Islamic world and may lead to more extremists’ activities around the world. It world be better if Iraqi government waited for some more time. This hurry in the hanging of the Saddam Hussein could be combined with the elections in the US and a try by the US president for increasing his popularity. The leadership of the world’s top nation like US needs to show right examples to the world and should avoid further them self from any effort like this.

What is next for Iraq?

How strong mind can work?

Mind also known to have many unique powers and many things which we believe on the world is only due to the power of our mind. This simple mind is known to create many complicated things around all of us. Mostly an average person is only available to use 2 to 5% of his brain, now any one can imagine the possibilities by using 100% of the mind.

Mediation has helped many people in understanding their hidden powers and using their mind more. In its full potential mind can create many wonders which are otherwise difficult to believe. Mind holds inside it more hidden secrets which even the scientists of today are not able to tell us. Our feeling, emotions and thoughts all go through our mind and create a world for us. We see things as mind tells us to believe.

Many psychologists have proved lot of theories in front of us; however every theory leads to more hidden secrets. There are many people who have even used their mind to communicate with the people staying thousands of kilometers away. Some believe that mind has imaging powers and others contradict it. The only way to understand mind is to by understanding our own minds power.

Life is a great joke

Like is a great joke most of the times, however the problem is that most of people live this joke very seriously. Life is given to us by God for enjoying and creating fun in life. Whereas we all see lot of sorrow and unhappiness around us, moreover the amazing fact is that most of these sorrows and unhappiness are our creations or overall our all these are the weak points of society. Either we commit most of mistakes in life due to our greed or forced by the society to commit these. However in all this run we miss many beautiful moments of the life. Life is full of many exciting things which offer a great enjoyment to all of us.

We all have born in this world with no thoughts and desires and a child only wants to enjoy his life. However we burdened this innocent soul from childhood with lot of expectations and desires. In this way a circle of expectations and desires starts moving in the life of every person. At the end we get an egoist person out of this child who is finding difficult with the changing time and die as an unhappy soul. Enjoying life is a great art which very-very less people know on this earth. For enjoying a life, a person is required a deep insight on life free from all the worldly things.

We all know that there are many people who even after living in the big houses are unhappy and there are strange wanderer who are endlessly happy even not having anything. This is a strange reality of life which many mystics around the world have tried to explain from time to time. Life looks strange to people who do not understand it and it becomes a great joke and excitement for those who master it.

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